The Holding Cell

Hello old friends, new followers, and fellow bloggers- 

I hate waiting.  We all have that one family member whose super accommodating and it seems like they can wait for anything. I  mean they can wait for food, in traffic for their exit, and for other things outside of their control.  These people have the best attitudes and seem to be full of patience.  I am not one of those people, not even close.  If my food is taking too long at a restaurant, I’m like what’s up?  I hate waiting in traffic. I hate waiting in long lines.  I hate waiting for the light to change.  I don’t like to wait.  Once I create a schedule, I want it to run smoothly free of delay.  Man, I wish God felt the same way about waiting as I do, but he doesn’t.  In fact, He encourages that we have periods of waiting- moments where we sit and wait for the promise

I was sitting here thinking about my life and  I feel like I’m in a holding cell.  It’s like I’m in this season of transition, waiting for someone of a higher authority to determine what’s next.  I have to wait for God to move.  The crazy thing about the holding cell, it forces me to trust that God is making the best decisions for my life- that He knows what He is doing.  Sadly, friends, I’ve jumped the gun so many times and moved ahead of Him.  This moving ahead of Holy Spirit left me in so much trouble, cleaning up a mess that could have been avoided with a bit of patience.  I’ve played clean up because of my inability to wait.  But, here I am again in a transitional state of my life and I have no choice but to wait and trust.  What do you do when you have no other choice but to wait? I took the wrong approach and complained about my wait.  I complained about what God was doing because I couldn’t see all of the details.  Yet, God being so full of mercy did not get angry with me but left me in the holding cell to wait things out.

God so full of mercy and compassion is making me wait.  He rather I sit still and wait than to push ahead of him and mess everything up.  There is beauty in the wait!  When we wait, we get to sit with God and prepare for the next.  In the wait, we learn the beauty of rest! In the wait, we understand that good things take time.  Waiting is for our benefit, waiting is for our maturity, and the wait helps us grow!  I’m in a season of waiting and I’m learning that out of his steadfast love for me, He’s placed me here.  I’m waiting and that is okay.

Here’s what I’ve learned through it all:  Don’t give up; don’t be impatient; be entwined as one with the Lord.  Be brave and courageous, and never lose hope.  Yes, keep on waiting – for he will never disappoint you! Psalms 27:14 TPT



I’ll Come When I’m Ready

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As you all know I write about love and relationships.  The only difference between my blog and the fabulous blogs of my peers is perspective.  I come to you as a young single adult who sees the world through a lens of Christianity, compassion and selflessness.  My point of view fuels a type of love I wish for all of mankind to share,  This love is designed by God to change the world for the better through the knowledge of His Son.  That being said, I don’t believe/advocate rushing into relationships (bouncing around like a child with no sense of a home), instead I believe that one must be ready within themselves before they enter a relationship with another.  The true test of real love (disclaimer: for me, does not have to apply to anyone else), is when a person can say to me: “Simone, I love you so much that I’ll give up the chance of being with you than to be with you and hurt you because of the issues within myself.” If a guy can say this to me, I would have more respect for him than for someone who rushes things just because they want someone to be on their arm.

We hurt those we care about deeply when we rush into romantic relationships full of holes.  We have holes in our hearts, holes in our self-esteem,and  holes in our identities- we are a people full of holes, waiting to be made whole.  This wholeness comes through a love relationship with God. So we enter into these relationships prematurely, not fully ready and we damage the person we love the most.  We mishandle those we love because we never took the time to learn how to love them, in fact we don’t know how to love ourselves- being that we are not connected to the Creator of love.

Real love says: I can wait until I’m ready to enter into a relationship.  I love this person so much, I am not willing to damage them with my insecurities and baggage of the past. I’ll keep my distance until I know that my life is not going to destroy the gift this individual is to me,  Real love can wait.  Real love says, I’ll come when I’m ready!  

I know that there is a sense of fear that comes with waiting.  There is this fear that if a person waits too long, that they are going to miss out on the perfect person and live life alone- that is not true,  There is a fear that the person won’t be interested in you anymore, or that they may have moved on with someone else.  Sometimes, that is the case.  Life happens and people who believed they were perfect for each other in 5 minutes realize, after the fact, that they didn’t know each other deeply enough to be “soul-mates”.  These individuals  move on and they find themselves in very happy relationships with different people.  Regardless of even those circumstances, I am a firm believer that if God destined you to be with someone, it’ll happen.  Even after all of the time and space spent apart from each other, you’ll see that individual and something inside will just click.  In that moment, it will be as if you guys have never spent any time apart.  Sometimes you have to decide how much you love someone and make decisions that are best for them.  Come when you’re ready!

Until next time,

Mo 🙂 dear-destiny