In Love With The Idea.

Hello old friends, new followers, and fellow bloggers

I hope you all are having a great evening!  It’s been a great day for me and I am super pumped about sharing my thoughts with you.  Those who know me, know that I love films.  I love all films but I have a special place in my heart for black cinema, especially films that celebrate black love.  I’m the girl that has seen Brown Sugar way too many times.  I’m the girl that understands Darius’ pain in Love Jones; that wanted to fight for my man like Monica in Love & Basketball; and who knows how secrets can potentially kill friendships like in The Best Man.  Movies such as Just Wright taught me how looking for my preference can get me in so much trouble and Beyond the Lights encouraged me to believe that my person would indeed “see me.”  Unfortunately, life is not like the movies and sometimes there is no happy ending.  Sometimes we find true love and then sometimes we find ourselves in love with the idea of love.

I love love.  Yep, I love all things that pertain to love.  I love connection, friendships, familial and romantic relationships.  I love the way love makes us feel and how brave we are when we’re loved well.  I love hearing how people connected and about the exact moment, they knew their soul found its home in each other.  I love love.  Yet, it is this rose-colored ideal that caused me to confuse infatuation with love.  I would confuse my butterflies in the relationship to equate to falling in love when we all know that is not the case.  Love is more than desire, it’s more than that “can’t eat, can’t sleep, reach for the stars” type of stuff.  Love is sacrifice and commitment; it’s hella messy and full of risk.  Love is safety and vulnerability; the ability to just be with your partner.  That my dear is love.

Once upon a time, I was in love or so I thought.  I loved this young man and even considered marrying him.  I thought about taking his last name, and I thought about him being the father of my children.  In my heart, I convinced myself that I loved him.  And I did, in part. I loved the idea of him.  I loved the idea of him being my forever partner, the idea that I would no longer wake up alone.  I loved the idea that we would conquer the world together, that I would finally have a teammate.  The idea of loving him was so wonderful that I convinced myself that I loved him.  Since I was committed to my love of this idea when he lied or cheated- I forgave and took him back because I loved him.  He didn’t love me well, but I “loved”  him.  I remember realizing this as I prepped for a wedding and then I knew:  “homegirl, loving an idea will never make you love him fully.”   You can love an idea for eternity but that does not mean that this idea is great for you or your future.  Life is nothing like the movies, we cannot manipulate our situations to give us this picturesque ending.  Sometimes, things don’t work; sometimes, things do. You can’t force the fit, either it works or it doesn’t.

So I have a couple of questions for you:  Do you love them?  Or, do you love the idea of them? If you truly love someone, you will love them for who they are and not for who you would like for them to be.  Love says I’m down for the ride regardless of your brokenness, issues, strengths, and weaknesses.  Love says the real you is accepted with me.  Love says truth is more important than comfort.  Love protects, never gives up, and covers a multitude of faults.  Love is more than a feeling, it’s a choice.  A free-will choice.

So, do you love them or are you in love with the idea of who they should be?

Xoxo,

Simone 

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The Call For Salvation

Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers- 

I received this message in my email that I thought I would share from you.  This email was sent from Neil Vermillion and I thought that what he had to say this morning was great, it expressed God’s heart to bring salvation. Disclaimer: *The speech of the text is written in the format of God speaking to humanity.* I believe we have men and women among us that are prophets, mouthpieces of God- speaking to humanity God’s heart, will and intentions.  So here it goes!

“At times I speak in riddles, in symbols, in pictures, in mysteries. And everyone demands an answer, demands an interpretation. But where have you been in years prior? Why have you been so distant until this day? Why do you not respond to the tender, soft, and gentle voice in which I speak? Why do you ignore these, and why is that you will only turn your ear when catastrophe and calamity come to your neighbor’s door?

For so long I have called out to you, and so long I have remained patient. And still, even today I remain patient. But let me encourage you, do not delay. Do not hesitate to come to me, to know me, to love me, to allow yourself to be changed. For these matters are important, and you so easily trade important, for that which is unimportant. And still you do not listen.

But my love for you is great. My commitment to you is great. My faithfulness to you is great. And I will redeem. I will restore. I will rescue, and I will save. In spite of mistakes, rebellion, and deception, I have come to save. I have come to restore the breach, to repair the broken fences, and to heal. So though you find yourself on the wrong side of the fence, trust in my goodness and in my heart save, for it is still not too late.

Regardless of the mistakes of your past, my redemption is so much greater. Regardless of how you have lived, I can save. So step out from where you are, and engage your heart with mine. I will not turn you away, but will embrace you as my very own. I will welcome you with arms wide open, standing and looking from a far distance waiting for your return to me.

And when you come, I will not shame you, or reject you. I will wash and cleanse you. I will give you fine garments and new shoes. I will put a crown upon your head, and a ring upon your finger. We will sit and dine together. And you will be filled and my joy will surround you on every side.

So trust in my heart for you, because my love for you is great. My desire to rescue is great. My patience is great. So come to me, and do not delay. For I will not turn you away, but will welcome you with my arms wide open.”

So, no matter where you are right now in life- God is extending himself to you!  Please comment below with your thoughts and hopefully, I will speak to you all soon!

Until next time,

Mo 🙂

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