Adulting: Integrity & Character

Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers- 

You know that moment when you have to make a hard choice.  It is that moment when you have to decide between doing what is right versus what is popular.  I’ve had a handful of those moments over the years and recently I have found myself making more of these choices.  Will I do what is right? Or will I compromise my integrity and character for what is popular?  As I embark into a profession that is characterized for integrity and fitness, these are the hard choices I must make. Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one else is looking.  Integrity is taking words to another step and implementing what you know is right for your life and your environment.  Being integral can be a bummer, especially when people start hating you because of their own irresponsibility and lack of character.  There is nothing worse than dealing with individuals with no sense of integrity, and no sense of character.

I used to think that fitting in my peers was a highlight for existence, but as I get older I realize that the reputation and name one makes for themselves go beyond a few years in high school or college.  People remember your name and if it is characterized in deceit or irresponsibility these memories affect job opportunities and business partnerships.  People engage in the behavior of business with those that they trust and if one exhibit a lifestyle void of integrity and character, the trust level lessen and partnerships fail. Contrary to popular belief, it is the  goal of an attorney to uphold the law in speech and deed. It is our job to exhibit moral integrity as we are agents for the public and are responsible for many lives.  I heard an attorney say something so key today in a lecture that made my heart smile so big. He said “I’m not in a popularity contest.  Nothing is worth a blemish on your integrity and character.” It was these words that I took to heart, I am in competition with no man and even though some may not like my behavior- I have to do what is right no matter the outcome.

Character goes along way. Yes, having friends are great but at what cost are we willing to build friendships?  What is the cost? Proverbs 22:1 states “A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.” What we deem to be so important is nothing in comparison to our reputation, our name.   We all have the ability to have a good name and this is demonstrated in our integrity and our relations with others.  How we treat people, what we compromise on and what we allow in our lives is a direct reflection of the state of our name.  Do you have a good name?

Friends, I remember one August evening like it was yesterday.  On a still summer night, I took an oath.  An oath to always be prepared as a law student.  An oath to always operate with ethics  and civility toward my fellow colleagues.  I took an oath to operate with integrity always, whether in the presence of my peers or in my home.  I took an oath and I intend to carry out every word of that precious promise.  My mom has a favorite phrase, “Character will keep you where your gift takes you.” I’m paraphrasing of course but the gist of this statement is that yes, your gift  and charisma will open doors for you but it is your character that secure these opportunities.  Opportunities will come but those with no character will find themselves with the short end of the stick in the future to come.

Weigh out your life choices.  Make a conscience decision to decide what is best for your future,  because at the end of the day it is your life and you are responsible for where it leads.  When we get older, we cannot blame our friends for our criminal records nor can we blame our friends for our crooked business practices.  We cannot blame our friends for our lost opportunity, nor can we blame our friends for the lack of trust from our communities.  We cannot blame our friends for our bad reputation and therefore we cannot blame our friends for the consequences created from our actions.  These examples are just based on this life and not the life to come.  When we stand before God, we will be standing by ourselves and no one else will be present with us to assume the responsibility of our foolish mistakes and lack of integrity.  It will be just God and us – reflecting  on our choices in life.

Lastly, I leave you with this final thought.  What do you have to lose by doing the right thing?  Really, what do you lose by telling the truth when it’s easier to tell a lie?  Yeah, someone is going to be offended and have their feelings hurt.  That is inevitable.  Yes, someone may end your friendship and stop talking to you.  That sounds like a personal problem that is being projected out of hurt and insecurity, again inevitable.  Yes, you may not get invited to the “in” club outings and such, but hey they are probably lame anyways.  Now here is a question for the reverse:  What do you have to lose by compromising your character and integrity? Everything.  You have everything to lose in one moment of decision.  You can gamble with your life but if you lose the aftermath is greater than the choice it took to create your current situation.  Choose wisely!

Until next time,

Simone

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Collision

Two worlds propelling towards each other 

at high speed 

I need 

to duck for cover 

as my world begins to turn-up-side down

A smile lifts my cheeks as 

I think of the weeks 

it took to get to this place

An infinite space

of dunamis power 

shining in this real hour 

As these two worlds continue to 

await their scheduled spontaneous meeting 

as time continue to be fleeting 

I feel the pull of the upcoming collision

resulting from a divine decision

releasing God’s promised word on the earth

no need to search 

for what’s already set into stone

by God alone.

Heaven collides with the earth  

and all that’s been promised is now-

on the surface.

©Simone Holloway, 2015

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Driving In The Sunset

Hello old followers, new friends, and fellow bloggers –

Hold up! That’s not right, it’s “Hello old bloggers, new followers and fellow friends-“; ummmmm…that is also incorrect.  Okay, here we go:

Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers- 

That’s it!   Family I am so stoked at this moment.  You see.. I GOT A NEW CAR!!!!    *eeeeppp* I know, you’re excited too!  I knew you would be, so I am so happy in this moment.  I think it’s crazy to pray for something for so long, and then what you pray for is there in front of you- it’s this amazing feeling .

You know fam, God is so good and He is so faithful to His word.  Even when we are not faithful, God is faithful and He truly keeps His promises.  One day, you’re going to look up and that thing you was praying for, would be right there in front of you.  I wish you guys the best day possible and if you’re day wasn’t super amazing – keep hope alive, because there is always a new day in tomorrow.

Stay encourage family, things are going to turn around- before you know it, you’ll be driving in the sunset!

Until next time,

Mo 🙂

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Good Is Promised To Me

Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers- 
My heart is filled with praise and thanksgiving to our God.  You know, the goodness of God does not change based upon our situation and circumstance? It’s constant.  That is one of the things I love about the Lord, His consistency, So I was reading my devotional and thinking about 3 AM prayer and I noticed that one of my favorite scriptures was featured today, cool…right?
Romans 8:28 is my ultimate go to scripture when things in my life are going haywire, it is a promise that keeps me going until I things turn around.  It simply says…

“And we know that all things work together for good to then that love love, to them who are called according to his purpose.”

It’s like in the middle of crisis, I remind myself of the criteria of this promise.  1. I love God and 2. I am called for His divine destiny- so all things in my life though it looks bad right now is going to work out for my good.   I choose to trust in the sovereign will of God.  I choose to trust His plan and as I do this I realize that good is promised to me.
God has promised me good… and that means nothing in this life can shake that promise, things have to work out for my good.
Well fam, do you love God?  Are you called for His divine purpose/plan/destiny?  Then guess what??? Good is promised to you as well. Don’t dwell on all the bad you see around you now.  Yeah I know that things are tough right now .  Yeah I know that things look dark and grey but let me remind you that good is promised.  God cannot lie- it’s not in His nature so when He promises good, He is faithful to follow through.  Good is coming!  Choose to trust and believe and I promise that you ‘ll see the good in this situation.
I write these words to give you hope so that you may know your trials and tribulations are not in vain- good is promised and good shall come!
Until next time,
Mo 🙂
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Dear Future Husband

Dear Future Husband, 

I’m not one to make a lot of empty promises, not one to say things I hope you’ll want to hear.  I just want to be real, especially with you.

You see- I see you as my God-given gift.  I am your rib, your helpmate, the one destined for you.  So I value my role and position in your life, I was built to cultivate your greatness – to make your deepest dreams come alive.  I was fashioned after my mother Eve, wrapped in her beauty- detailed in her love and with the wisdom of Deborah and the grace of Ruth, I stand in the strength of Rahab, ready to stand by your side.

I promise to be myself and to accept you for who you truly are.  I promise to point you to the Father, knowing that true love comes from Him and Him alone.  I promise to hear your fears and not jump to conclusions/judgments.  I I promise to rejoice when you rejoice and to cry tears of sadness when your heart is broken.  I promise to fill your days with laughter and your nights with dancing. I promise to be a  listening ear and a mouth ready to defend your character. I promise loyalty, I promise faithfulness, I promise truth – all of the core things promised by our Lord Jesus Christ.  I promise to allow you to lead, even as God-ordained; while retaining my God-given spirit of independence and strong will.  I promise to love those you love dearly and to accept your family as my own.  I promise to never give up. because once I am in- I’m all in for the long run.  I promise to be a shoulder to lean on, a confidante, a voice of reason and a godly representation of Christ’s love for us.  I promise to be who God designed me to be for you: and nothing less.  I promise to be vulnerable, I promise to let you in – even when it’s hard and all I want to do is run and hide.  I promise to allow you to love me even when I don’t think I am deserving of such love.

Perfect love casts out all fear, so with you- I plan to be fearless!  I plan to be released from all inhibitions – with you, I plan to be alive.  I promise life and the joys that come with  truly living.  I’ll always love you.  My love may evolve, but it’ll remain constant- always being for you and you alone.  I promise all these things, as precious as my next breath- I love you.

Now and forever,

Your- soon- to-be-wife 

©Simone Holloway, 2015

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The Heat From The Speed

Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers- 

I’m sort of a night owl even though I know I should go to bed, especially since I had to get up for work this morning.  Anyways…I was having a chat with the Lord around 12:45 this morning, asking Him why it seems like for my life things take so long to get off the ground.  I was reflecting on the fact that He used me to speak into someone’s life, and I have witnessed God’s word come to pass so quickly that it slightly baffled me.  God did a quick work in their lives, and then I began to reflect on my own life and think, “What’s taking God so long???”

The Holy Spirit began to speak to me in that moment about rockets…guys I know nothing about rockets or missiles, except that they go far in to the atmosphere at a very high speed.  The Holy Spirit began speaking to me about a rocket taking off, and how a rocket takes off at such a high speed that the vessel itself becomes super hot. The speed of the launch creates the intensity of the temperature.  So if the rocket was not built correctly, or if it’s foundation vessel was super weak; the heat would destroy the vessel in the middle of the launch.  SO I , not really missing my physics class at this moment thought out loud, “So what does this have to do with me?”  And immediately, the Lord replied; “I had to take time to build you, to make you strong so that when I launch you in my divine plan, heat from the speed doesn’t destroy you.”  “If I allowed you to be launched into purpose without a strong foundation, as soon as  things got tough- you would break and never make it to your next place in me.” 

Sometimes, we look at our lives compared to others and feel a sense of discouragement.  Why does it seem like I have to work for everything?  But those around me are freely given amazing opportunities?  Why does it seem like I am always lacking resources?  When others have what they need to make the difference they desire?  Sometimes, it seems like life isn’t fair.  

I encourage you to realize that God is working in your life.  He is building the foundation so that when He launches you, you don’t crumble at the speed by which He turns things around in your life.  Don’t despise the process.  Stop comparing your life with others (something that I am working on now! ).  Understand that God’s plan is great, no matter what it entails and that His ways are always right.

Be encouraged and please write me, I love hearing from you guys!

Until next time,

Mo 🙂

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Empty Promises

Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers- 

How are you guys doing?  My mind just took a turn down memory lane, it does that sometimes.  I used to think my memory was a curse, a realm of my mind that constantly brought up things I wished I could forget, but now I believe it is a blessing- a contributor to lessons learned and the reason wisdom takes top priority in the character wish list.

It is not until you at the end of an empty promise that you understand the importance of keeping one’s word.  A man’s word is his bond, bond can be defined as an agreement with legal force..a promise, vow , or word of honor.  I’ve been on the receiving end of empty promises so much so that for a period of time, I lacked faith in one’s words or agreements made with me.  This trust was so diminished that I expected everyone to disappoint me, and you can’t have long lasting friendships when you’re expecting disappointment.  But, hey- you get what you expect right?

A distant memory triggered today’s discussion.  Once upon a time, I was friends with a guy that I worked with.  We became close very fast and anyways, he was giving me a ride home from work when he made a definite statement “I intend on hanging out with you this summer.”  I didn’t ask for him to hang out with me outside of work.  I never pushed a deeper friendship with him, so this took me aback for a moment, but at the same time my friend circle was so small that I was excited at the thought of adventures this summer with him.  That summer came and left- we never hung out that summer.  Again I was at the end of an empty promise, I should have expected it, but I didn’t and that was what made it hurt even more.

Good intentions paved the pathway to hell.  We all intend to do things, but how many of us actually follow through.  Like, really follow through.  Talk is cheap and intentions mean nothing without action, so today I encourage you guys to watch what you say you intend to do.  If you make a promise, keep it!  A man/woman is only as good as their word, if you lack the ability to follow through- making promises isn’t for you.  Some people can’t follow through, they have big vision and big dream but lack the capability to bring those things to life, causing what they imagined to die right in their hands.

Watch what you say, because your words have duel power- the power to make someone’s life better and/or the power to make someone’s life worse.  Keep your empty promises to yourself!

Until next time,

Mo 🙂

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It’s Just A Test

Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers- 

Today is usually Freedom Friday but we are going to do something different for this week.  Today, I’m going to spend some time encouraging you.  Next week, we will resume with sharing stories that exemplify freedom.  Sit back, read and enjoy!  

Have you ever been in a situation where they seemed to be no way out?  There seems to be no hope of things getting better?  

What do you do?  

Have you ever prayed and heard God say nothing?  Or, have you ever had to trust/ believe God in spite of what you see?  

Friends, I am in the place in my relationship with God where I have to follow Him even when I don’t see Him guiding me.  I have to trust in His promises even when I don’t hear His voice.  I think that sometimes God is silent on purpose to test the intentions of our hearts.  It’s like He wants to see if we will love Him in spite of what we are going through, in spite of what we are dealing with.  I’m here to encourage you and let you know that what you are going through is only a test, a test of faith/belief.  

You know, it’s one thing to say you have faith in something, but it’s another to put that faith into practice.  Sometimes, God doesn’t move the way we think He should in our situations.  This doesn’t mean that God can’t move in our situation ( He can do all things), maybe He is choosing a different way to move.  It’s easy to doubt that God cares and that He’s concerned during these times of silence, but we must not give up our faith in God.  God use these times of silence to test our belief, it is in these moments that we discover if we truly believe God’s word- our words are tested during hard times.  

 Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. (Hebrews 11:1 NIV)

What you are going through is just a test.  You can make it!  You can win! Keep believing in God’s word, keep trusting Him because before you know it- He’s going to work everything out!  Yes, He will. 

Until next time, 

Mo 🙂 

The Power of His Word

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Do you know someone who seeks to fulfill their promises? How would you describe these “rare” individuals?  Would you trust your life with them? What if they said that they had this grand plan for your life and that everything was going to work for your good (Rom 8:28)? Do you know someone who actively watch over what they say? This being said, they do not say anything that they are not planning on fulfilling? 

Well friends…I know someone like this.  In fact, I have pledged my life to this individual knowing that in His hands I am extremely safe.  Who is He? Well He has many names… Some like to call Him Yahweh ( my personal favorite), or Jehovah.  Some call Him God or the man upstairs.  I call Him Abba, Love, Master, etc- and He fulfills His promises.   Today, we are going to discuss the power of being in relationship with someone who fulfills their promises- someone who has power in their words.  

Have someone ever promised to do something for you and forgot?  Or worse, intentionally chose not to come through?  I have spent years in relationship with individuals who never came through on their word.  To tell you the truth, it’s kind of annoying.  It’s like you get your hopes up and you prepare for something that doesn’t happen-leaving you completely crushed.  After while, I stopped expecting people to come through on their promises, this can be a bad thing because it produces trust issues.  Good thing, Yahweh is not like people- He makes it His goal to come through. Jeremiah 1:12 (AMP) says “Then said the Lord to me, You have seen well, for I am alert and active, watching over My word to perform it.” He is alert and actively watching.  He isn’t distracted or tired.  He isn’t lazily watching over His word, no- He is always alert. He is always watching His word. 

That means that He sees where you are now, knowing that His word is on its way to you.  He knows what is to come and if you don’t give up, you’ll see His promises come to pass in your life.  There is a guarantee in God, He can’t fail and He won’t fail you.  He is going to bring you to where you need to be to live in the life He promised, He’ll do it- I know He will.  In fact Isaiah 55:11(AMP) says “So shall My word be that goes forth out of My mouth: it shall not return to Me void [without producing any effect, useless], but it shall accomplish that which I please and purpose, and it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.” His word is not going to come back to Him without producing what He has spoken.  

We are a product of His word, in the beginning of time – God created the world with a spoken word.  He said “Let there be” and there was… That is the power of His word. When God speaks a thing, no matter what it is, it produces something (change, deliverance, healing, salvation, etc.). God created through His word and He creates a new life for us with His word.  His promises are sure because His word will produce what He spoken.  John 1:1(AMP) says “In the beginning [before all time] was the Word (Christ), and the Word was with God, and the Word was God Himself” He is the Word and He has the power to change our lives by speaking over our destinies! 

There is power in His word.  Be encouraged and know that what God has spoken is going to happen- it will!  Have a great day, keep your chin up and continue to believe in a God who can do the impossible.

Until next time, 

Mo 🙂