Phone Calls

Hello old friends, new followers, and fellow bloggers- 

I’m an old soul, born circa ’93 but in my heart, I feel like I’m from an earlier era.  I love phone calls.  Yep, I’m one of those weird people that rather receive a phone call than an email or a text message.  It’s something about hearing the voice of those you love, it’s comforting yet exciting.  It’s a simple way of building connection and intimacy, two things that I hold dear.

I have a friend who is a master of connection.  She is the only one I know that loves phone calls, facetime, and face to face meetings.  It’s like she feels no anxiety as she bares herself to me in conversation.  Every time I’m with her I feel safely loved, heard and just free to be myself!  Over the past eight months, she has taught me about connection: both with God and others.

I realized that I shied away from connection because it allowed people to see me. And I mean see me: in rawness, brokenness and undone.  Yet, it is this baring of oneself that builds intimacy and connection.  If you cannot see me fully, then you cannot know me and you cannot love me.  Now, I find myself putting my phone down in the company of others, preferring face time calls, and wanting to have amazing conversations over a hot cup of coffee.  I prefer connection because to me:  it’s raw, it’s intimate, and it’s real.  Who wants to be in relationships and cannot be real?  Who wants to invest in something that only appears to be close?  That only appears to be solid?  Not me.  I’m good without the facade.  Give me the real, where I can hear in your voice that you’re not good.  The real, where I don’t have to decode your text messages or wonder why you used a certain emoji?  Instead of laughing emojis, I want to hear the ones I love laugh and I want to know that they are laughing from a genuine place.  At the end of the day, we all want something real.  Now, for my friends who are not like me, I’ve mastered my text game: GIFS, emojis, and short paragraphs of text but in my heart, I love a good phone call!

So why talk about phone calls? Well… maybe because we live in a world where people desperately want to feel connected.  To something, to anything; to someone, to anyone.  There are people all around us who want to know that they are seen, heard, loved and valued.  If we look up from our screens and start looking into the face of those around us, maybe we will build connections based on the raw, based on the real.  It’s harder to forget about those whose voices you hear frequently- that’s why when someone is around you all the time, you find yourself feeling closer to them.  On the flip side, those we only engage with via social media from time to time and even through an occasional text, sometimes we forget about them.  We forget to see how they are doing, beyond the highlight reel, we forget that we were once apart of their lives.  Our friendships lack communication, our relationships lack depth and before you know it, it’s easier to move on breaking covenants because what we had lacked the real- it lacked connection beyond a keyboard.

I encourage you to look up!  To be aware of those around you.  I encourage you to come out of your comfort zone and to connect.  I love phone calls, but it’s because at the end of the day I am okay with vulnerability. Are you okay with being vulnerable?  Are you okay with revealing who you are to have depth in your relationships? It’s okay if you’re not ready yet.  It’s okay if vulnerability frightens you, but I can guarantee that the level of love you desire is only coming through vulnerability.  What you want in your friendships and relationships is only going to come through revealing who you are, baring yourself to your inner circle.  Depth only comes through the raw, it’s only strengthened through the real. Happy connecting!

Xoxo,

Simone 

 

 

Hold My Hand

Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers- 

Lovelies, sweater weather is upon us and it seems like everyone is rushing to find a suitable beau to bring home for the holidays.  I’m peering through the window of social media, chuckling at the events that are soon to take place.  Tis’ the season when single women and men yearn for companionship as humans should and seek the warmth of a body near them (I’m gonna leave that there…) To tell you the truth, some individuals just want the security of a held hand.  There is something so intimate, careful yet secure about having your hand held by the one you love and the one who loves you.

I was sitting in some unconventional quiet time, just trying to make room for the one I love- the Father, when I ran across this verse: For I, Yahweh your God, hold your right hand and say to you: Do not fear, I will help you. (Isaiah 41:13 HCSB) Like a gentle whisper in a storm, these words caressed my soul.  Once again, the Father is reminding us that within Him lies our security- for it is Him that hold us together.   If we think about the Bible or just the nature of life, we find a beautiful story of a Creator whose love for his creation propels him to live eternally pursing a relationship with them.  His love creates, fuels and  signifies his pursuit and in his love is no fear.  When we hold onto His hands of security and we leave our apprehensions behind, peace reigns in our hearts and joy springs forth from our spirits. We find that in his security lies our help!

Friends, the Father desires an intimate, secure relationship with each of us.  I won’t go into this trend of “Jesus being our boyfriend or boo”,etc., lol- but I do believe that we are the bride of Christ which signifies this desire for intimacy.  For where intimacy is found, trust resides, and where trust resides, security can be found. A majority of us desire security but we lack the capability to give trust- and that is just half of the battle.  For trust is fueled through intimacy.  Let’s ask ourselves some hard questions: (1) Why is it so hard for us to trust our Creator? (2) Why do we lack security within? and (3) Is the thing we have chosen to become intimate with capable of satisfying our desires within? We were called to be brides, not side-chicks and that comes from spending time with our Beloved.

He desires to hold our hands and to dissipate our fears. 

Until next time,

Simone

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The Creator Of Intimacy

Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers-

Today, I wanted to ponder with you about the importance of intimacy.  We all yearn for emotional intimacy, a deep cord of trust between ourselves and another.  Emotional intimacy creates a sense of acceptance, desire and pure joy.  When we connect with someone on a deeper level we find ourselves genuinely satisfied.  Love is strengthened through emotional intimacy.

Do you know someone inside and out?  Do you know what they are thinking even when they haven’t said a word?  Have you  ever read someone’s heart?  Do you know exactly what to do based on that person’s countenance?

We love the idea of someone knowing us inside and out.  We all seek for a deep intimate connection with someone else, that is why we spend so much time researching how to create that intimate bond.  We are always trying to see if the person we are with is a “perfect” fit, because in this perfection we would come to see a certain level of intimacy- emotional intimacy.

Personally, I love the idea of the “perfect” fit.  I love reading about the creation of man,  how God created Adam and Eve.  I found it interesting how God created man and woman in two different ways.  When man was created, the Bible says that man was created from the dust of the earth.  God shaped man and breathed into his nostrils and man became a living soul (Genesis 2:7).  After the creation of man,  God determined that man should not be alone and desired to create a person suitable for him. So, God created woman but not from the dust of the earth like before but from the rib of the man. A rib is a valuable bone, it’s job is to protect our organs from getting damaged- so for a woman to be made from a rib, it signifies a wife’s importance in the life of a man.  God created woman out of man.

Genesis 2: 23-24 says “And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother; and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh.”

Adam and Even were a “perfect” fit.  

God, from the beginning of time, created a level of emotional and physical intimacy to be between a man and a woman.   In this moment, the idea of marriage was created- Eve from the beginning was called wife,  not “side chick”.  There is a level of intimacy and value attached to the name “wife” as opposed to “girlfriend” or “someone I’m just talking to”.  Intimacy is valuable and should be given to someone with value.   This is the beauty of God, He is the Creator of intimacy.

Woman

This why God compares our relationship with Him to a marriage, because marriage symbolizes the highest level of intimacy.  Marriage is a lifelong commitment to be with one person forever- through the good, bad and ugly ( there are exceptions that are present in scripture: adultery, abuse).  This is why marriage shouldn’t be taken lightly, it’s a covenant (a vow) that has been around since the beginning of time.  Our relationship with God is a covenant, one where God promises to always be present in our lives and we promise to do the same- to always stay connected to Him.  When we develop intimacy with God ( the Creator of intimacy),  we find ourselves free to explore that level of trust and love with someone else.

It is not until we are connected to the Creator of intimacy that we can give someone true intimacy, something that won’t leave them empty and hollow- but rather a “perfect” fit.  Emotional intimacy creates value in our relationships and it helps us determine an individual’s true place in our lives. Everyone is not “wife’ or “husband” material and therefore should not be treated as such.  We have to give intimacy to those who will value what we are giving them, not to those who will mishandle the gift that they have been given.  Intimacy is a gift so PLEASE BE CAREFUL who you give it to.

Have a great day!

Until next time,

Mo 🙂