Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers-
i thought I would take some time to introduce myself to some of you guys that don’t really know me well. Let’s see….I’m a licensed minister and I am a pastor’s daughter, both my mom and dad work as pastors in the ministry. People are always asking, how does being in leadership and being a pk affect your dating life? Well, the effect is great. The “code of conduct” if you will is a list of particular rules that is used to reflect the old-fashioned model of modesty. It’s like dating in my grandmother’s way (which is not a bad thing), it’s just that sometimes it’s hard to find guys who would submit to these rules. For example, if a guy plans on dating me- he has to speak to both of my parents, come to the door to pick me up and we must have a chaperon on the date( like an accountability partner). These rules don’t bother me but they seem to be a problem for the guys who are interested in me. It’s like, they are super excited to be with me but because of all the hard work- they give up and decide that they would rather pursue someone else. So what should a girl do? Should I go behind my parent’s back and do my own thing? Should I lower my standards to keep him interested? Or maybe, I should live my life according to these standards and if he leaves that’s on him. Maybe I should understand that I am a girl that is worth working for.
Maybe I should understand that diamonds are mined and that requires effort, its the same with a guy searching for my heart; it’s going to require effort.
Just maybe, I live life with a mindset that people will come in and out of your life, but those who are supposed to be there will stay. If you are supposed to be here, you’ll stay!
This is my dating life as a preacher’s kid, knowing that at the right time- the one who is supposed to love me will come along and he will embrace all of my parents crazy quirks and respect the code of the “first family”, the first family of the church.
Until next time,