There’s A Song for That…

“When was the last time you allowed yourself to just be in the moment?  To be present with yourself, family and favorite playlist?  When was the last time you welcomed joy? “©Simone Holloway, 2020

On The Run.

“So I have a confession to make: when I sense that I am falling in love with someone or that someone is falling for me, I run.”

I Don’t Owe You Anything!

Hello old friends, new followers, and fellow bloggers-  Hello & Happy Thursday!  Those who know me know that I am a big advocate for healthy boundaries and the cultivation of loving relationships upon the premise of choice.  Like many of you, my schedule is very busy and this sometimes leaves me less available to those…

A Clean Break.

“What will you do to maintain freedom?  Will you remove toxic things from your life (connections, relationships, habits)?  Will you be intentional about shutting the door to that which is comfortable and familiar?  Or will you have a clean break- a decision that says I’m breaking up with_______________ never to return? “©Simone Holloway, 2020.

A Love That Lies.

“I used to justify toxic behavior and say, “Well, I know they love me.”  That was not the truth.  These people did not love me, they loved the access they had to me.  They loved that they could do whatever they wanted and I did not have the guts yet to check them on their bad behavior.  Loves, those days of receiving any kind of love/treatment is over. “©Simone Holloway, 2020.

It’s Going To Be Different This Time.

“We look at our new friendships through the pain of our old ones.  We measure our new love against the toxic romantic partners of the past.  We look at a similar opportunity and automatically determine its success or failure relative to what we have attempted before.  Lastly, some of us even dream, plan and/or strategize within the limitations of our last failure.  When the Father makes all this new, things change and it’s okay to believe that what you’re seeing is different this time.”©Simone Holloway, 2020.

Own It!

“Yet, isn’t life like that?  As soon as you think you’ve overcome a feeling, a thought or even a habit- here comes a situation to test your response, to reveal your level of growth.  Today’s dressing room nightmare was one of those situations, coming to test my perception of that little pudge around my mid-section that refuses to leave.”©Simone Holloway, 2020.

Use Your Words.

“One of my absolute favorite words is “no”.  No, I am not available.  No, I would not like to go with you there.  No, I am not happy with the treatment given to me.  No, I am not satisfied with the level of communication demonstrated.  No.   No is such a powerful word, it’s a boundary inducing word and it allows us to control our environment.  A lot of us have or are currently submitting to abusive behavior because we were or are afraid to say “no.” ©️Simone Holloway, 2020.

Pause.

“There’s a time for everything!  There’s a time to begin and a time to end.  There’s a time to be busy and a time to be more available.  There’s a time to share wisdom and a time to be silent.  There’s a time to move and a time to pause”There’s a time for everything!  There’s a time to begin and a time to end.  There’s a time to be busy and a time to be more available.  There’s a time to share wisdom and a time to be silent.  There’s a time to move and a time to pause”©Simone
Holloway, 2020.

Second Chances Are Not Guaranteed.

“Those who pursue do not bank on second chances, they take the first one. Here’s a snippet of wisdom for free: you would probably be in a relationship by now if you took a chance. Whether that relationship is good or bad is up to y’all the parties, but even conflict resolution and growth together comes from taking a shot at hard conversations. We want things without wanting to adjust for them.”©Simone Holloway, 2020.