A Clean Break.

“What will you do to maintain freedom?  Will you remove toxic things from your life (connections, relationships, habits)?  Will you be intentional about shutting the door to that which is comfortable and familiar?  Or will you have a clean break- a decision that says I’m breaking up with_______________ never to return? “©Simone Holloway, 2020.

A Love That Lies.

“I used to justify toxic behavior and say, “Well, I know they love me.”  That was not the truth.  These people did not love me, they loved the access they had to me.  They loved that they could do whatever they wanted and I did not have the guts yet to check them on their bad behavior.  Loves, those days of receiving any kind of love/treatment is over. “©Simone Holloway, 2020.

It’s Going To Be Different This Time.

“We look at our new friendships through the pain of our old ones.  We measure our new love against the toxic romantic partners of the past.  We look at a similar opportunity and automatically determine its success or failure relative to what we have attempted before.  Lastly, some of us even dream, plan and/or strategize within the limitations of our last failure.  When the Father makes all this new, things change and it’s okay to believe that what you’re seeing is different this time.”©Simone Holloway, 2020.

Own It!

“Yet, isn’t life like that?  As soon as you think you’ve overcome a feeling, a thought or even a habit- here comes a situation to test your response, to reveal your level of growth.  Today’s dressing room nightmare was one of those situations, coming to test my perception of that little pudge around my mid-section that refuses to leave.”©Simone Holloway, 2020.

Use Your Words.

“One of my absolute favorite words is “no”.  No, I am not available.  No, I would not like to go with you there.  No, I am not happy with the treatment given to me.  No, I am not satisfied with the level of communication demonstrated.  No.   No is such a powerful word, it’s a boundary inducing word and it allows us to control our environment.  A lot of us have or are currently submitting to abusive behavior because we were or are afraid to say “no.” ©️Simone Holloway, 2020.

Pause.

“There’s a time for everything!  There’s a time to begin and a time to end.  There’s a time to be busy and a time to be more available.  There’s a time to share wisdom and a time to be silent.  There’s a time to move and a time to pause”There’s a time for everything!  There’s a time to begin and a time to end.  There’s a time to be busy and a time to be more available.  There’s a time to share wisdom and a time to be silent.  There’s a time to move and a time to pause”©Simone
Holloway, 2020.

Second Chances Are Not Guaranteed.

“Those who pursue do not bank on second chances, they take the first one. Here’s a snippet of wisdom for free: you would probably be in a relationship by now if you took a chance. Whether that relationship is good or bad is up to y’all the parties, but even conflict resolution and growth together comes from taking a shot at hard conversations. We want things without wanting to adjust for them.”©Simone Holloway, 2020.

What Do I Want?

Hello old friends, new followers, and fellow bloggers- Happy Thursday! I have come to the realization that I have become a master at hiding my desires.  I have become so accustomed to sacrificing my desires in the pursuit of my dream.  When you are the oldest sibling and you cannot get what you want all…

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“Memories will speak on the behalf of what’s relationally dead; 
And before you know it, you’re sad when there is so much more ahead.”©Simone Holloway, 2019