Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers,
WELCOME! It’s been some time since we have spoken… and honestly searching for employment is no joke. Looking for a job is just as hard as working a job ;D This adulthood thing is no joke…Anyways today we are going to discuss: How we want to be loved? Being that this blog is about love and relationships, from a godly perspective- we should talk about how we desire to be loved. I am going to give you my top five ways I want to be loved. Ready? Let’s go!
#5) I want to be loved- Passionately
Whatever we are passionate about, we seek after- we pursue. I want to be loved so passionately that whoever has my heart never gets tired of pursuing me/ chasing after me. Today, as I scour the dating world, the one thing I find is that some men after women commit to them, lose their passion and stop their pursuit of her. Can you imagine wooing and courting a women for 3 years and then she finally gives you all of herself and then you stop trying? This is a tragic mistake that I see in the dating world today. When a man wins my heart one day, he has to win my heart again the next. The pursuit never ends, the courtship never ends, the spontaneous romantic gestures never end but instead mean something deeper every single time. God constantly pursues after us…He loves us passionately. Christ doesn’t stop telling us that He loves us after the first time. No, instead He continues to pursue after us to constantly remind us of his love. Sometimes, I just need a reminder! That is the beauty of passion and pursuit, it reminds you daily that you are loved.
#4) I want to be loved- Deeply
Have you ever swam in a shallow pool? When we were like 10 years old and did not know how to swim, we stayed near the shallow end because we wanted to stay safe- our parents did not want us to drown. I didn’t learn how to swim until I was 14 years old and I was too tall for the shallow end but I was scared to death of the water. I did not want to drown and I knew I had to start in the shallow end in order to eventually get to the deep end. My goal was to get to the deep end of the pool. The only thing keeping me from the deep end was fear, the deep end was not the safe end and it wasn’t anything I have ever experienced before. Once I got over my fear, I went for the deep end of the pool and discovered that what was available to me (even though not safe) was better than what I experienced before. It’s the same way with love- I don’t want to be loved superficially, only on the surface. I want to be loved deeply, deeper than anything I have ever experienced before. I want to know that someone knows me deeply and loves me the same way because deep love isn’t safe but it is totally worth it. Christ loves us deeply, He takes risks with us and He is so intimate with us that we can’t in relationship with Him, stay on the surface but we have to go to the deep end.
# 3) I want to be loved – Honestly
Honesty is essential to building a relationship, and I want to be loved by someone who tells me the truth. I want someone to think that I am decent enough to have the truth told to me. Sometimes the truth is not going to be something that we want to hear, or something that we like – but the truth does not change based on our feelings and opinions, it’s still truth. God does not lie to us. He does not build up our hopes to crush us with disappointment. He doesn’t waste time telling us things that we want to hear, He tells us the truth. When you love someone, you care about their best interest so much that you could not imagine lying to them. Your love for that person needs to be so real that you cannot imagine hurting that person by lying to them.
#2) I want to be loved- Securely
I want to be loved so much that I feel secure and safe with the one who holds my heart. Love brings safety. When you are truly in love, you feel so secure with that person. You know that at the end of the day- that person has your back and will do anything in their power to keep you safe. You protect the things you love- you keep what you love safe. God loves us so much that He carries us in His hand and He protects us by His Spirit. He strives to keep us safe. That is how I want to be loved – so much so that I know that in the presence of my love, I am safe! I want a love that keeps me safe.
#1) I want to be loved – Selflessly
This is probably the most important way I want to be loved. I want to be loved selflessly. I want to be loved by someone who is not trying to use me to please themselves. I want a love with no strings attached, a love that is not selfish and unsure. I want someone who will love me by thinking of my needs before their own, someone who desires to see my dreams and ambitions come true, someone who truly loves me. Jesus loved us selflessly, so much so, that He gave His life for the remission of our sins. He gave up something really important to Him, so that we could have a better life- amazing, huh? Through Him, we too can love and be loved in this way. I want to be loved in this manner… I want to be loved like this.
I shared my top 5 ways I would like to be loved, now if you have time – share with me your own? What does your list consist of? what are your deal-breakers? Remember one cannot experience love until they meet the creator of love, Jesus Christ. He is love and because He is love- He can help us love others in the best way possible. Share with me how you would like to be loved and remember to love one another. Appreciate those who love you and remember to say I love you as often as you can- We don’t know when our time is up..
Until next time,
P.S. Love remembers no wrongs…
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