It Wasn’t All Bad

Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers-

I find it hilarious that when something goes wrong between us and those we care about, the only memories we have of them are negative.  It is as if in that moment, all of the good times no longer exist and that our memory has no happy times to reflect on.  It’s just like the enemy to get us to focus on the bad when there is so much good around us, even in the people around us.  I remember having a spat with a friend and the only things I remembered about him were his negative traits, convincing me that being friends with him was not a good idea in the first place.  The problem with this type of thinking, is that this mindset will rob you of some of the most amazing people, experiences and things in life.  People change, things change, places change with a goal of becoming better.  So I can’t look at people from my past here in the present- in the same light, especially if  many years separate our last encounter.  A lot can happen in a year.  In fact a lot can happen in a day, so I need to keep my mind open and ears listening to what’s being said to me.  We all deserve second chances and just because some bad things happen doesn’t mean that they are bad people- maybe misguided but not definitely (without room for change) bad!  I love the gospel because whether you are rich or poor; a businessman or a thief there is always room for change in Jesus.  He causes us to change our attitudes, mindsets, perceptions, and He helps us see the good in the midst of the bad.  So when that person who wronged you stroll your way, allow your self to see them in a new light and embrace the possibility of reconciliation and change.

Life didn’t always suck, it wasn’t all bad- so reflect on those times that were good.

Until next time,

Mo 🙂

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Watch Your Attitude

Hello old friends, new followers, and fellow bloggers- 

I was trying to decide if I wanted to blog today, being that it is my day of rest but I noticed something that has rubbed me the wrong way. The problem is that I see this among fellow ” Christians, ” those who are supposedly filled with the love of God.  I was talking to the Lord today about how I’ve been getting beat up emotionally and verbally by my fellow brothers and sisters.  The attitudes of those I’ve encountered this weekend, if I was not a Christian would make me not come to Christ.  This saddened me because I am a Christian, so for me to even think that way disturbed me.  So by the title of this post, you can sense where I am going.  If you profess Christianity of to be any kind of follower of Christ, I kindly remind you to watch your attitude and how you speak to people.  We are to love those around us, love and compassion is supposed to be the differentiating factor between us and the world.  How are we different, if we don’t love?  If we aren’t kind or hold any ounce of compassion within us?  Those who hold compassion truly emulate Christ, because even when he passes judgement- it is still in love.  Our attitudes can be the determining factor on whether someone comes to know Christ or not.  We have to be careful on how we project Christ to the world, especially those in spiritual leadership.  Sarcasm, rude speech, negative talk is not a characteristic of God. He is never intentionally mean and hateful towards us.  Nor is he ever “nice-nasty”, getting us “told” without thought.   That is not who God is…. and those who project Him that way, haven’t taken the time to truly know Him.  Y’all I’ve been guilty of using these tactics but as i come to know Him, i realize that my attitude is very important.  Sometimes, you have to sacrifice being right to keep the peace in your environment.  I learned that you don’t always have to get the last word nor do you always have to confront people on what they’ve done.  Instead, go to God and ask Him to handle the situation- I rather Him handle it than for me to compromise my witness even for a second.  We are all works in progress, myself included- so I encourage you guys to keep at it.  Don’t let others immaturity skew your image of God and your budding relationship with Him,  Be the bigger person and God will cause everything to work out for you.  Watch Your Attitude!!!!

Until next time,

Mo 🙂

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Actions Cause Reactions ( A Conclusion)

Hello Authentic Lovers

Today is the last day in the Adam & Eve series. I hope everyone had a great Sunday… I thought I would end this series with a friendly reminder- a reminder of basic physics: actions cause reactions. What we do has some type of consequence, sometimes good and sometimes bad.  The lesson that is learned from this power couple is that their single action of disobedience caused the downfall of mankind…generations of people after them. Think about it! The consequence for Adam’s disobedience was the hard labor he would experience in tilling the ground for food. What once freely gave him life, would only give life after hard work. Eve would experience pain in giving birth- women all over the world hate Eve. Lol. Finally immortality would not be experienced any longer… man being created from the Earth would die and return back to the Earth.  Death was the ultimate consequence-man would forever be separated from God. One action caused a major damaging reaction.

This is why I encourage each and every one of you to think about your choices.  Think before you do because your choices not only affect you but also those who are in your life.  Think before you do.  Sometimes it’s hard to make sound decisions and it’s hard to not do things on impulse but wisdom causes an individual to be conscience of their decisions.

Think before you do!

Until next time,
Mo 🙂

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Never Mine

I guess I shouldn’t feel bad

Shouldn’t feel bad at all

That you’re not in my life

That you ignored my calls

The problem that I have

between you and me

Is that you led me on

And had me believe

Had me believe that you wanted me…

That you cared…

You had me believe that I belonged to you

Truth or Dare?

You dared me to trust you

To step in her shoes

To be your stand in girlfriend

Knowing that I would lose

Like an idiot, I played your game

Seeking to play you

Said I wouldn’t get too close

Not knowing what to do

I was the best “fake” girl

Patient and kind

A comforting presence

To a man that wasn’t mine

I was the best girlfriend

Supportive and true

The best for someone

As  undeserving as you

But to you I don’t place blame

I blame myself

I wallow in my own shame

My heart didn’t know about our plan

It didn’t understand

It began to fall in love

Wanted to hold your hand

So I used to be angry

I used to hate the world

I used to cry all night

And hate the one you called your girl

But now I’m over my mistakes

I’ve paid for my crime

For loving a man

That was never mine

(c) Simone Holloway 2014

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Destroying Soul Ties

Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers- 

Good morning! Today’s topic of discussion is soul ties.  What are soul ties?  How can they be detrimental in our moving forward? And finally, how do we destroy them in our lives?  As a Christian, I am always on the look out for the influence of negative soul ties in my life.  Sometimes identifying soul ties can be hard but once they are found, I believe that they should be addressed and destroyed so that a person can move forward in the newness that God has given them.  

Soul ties, in my own words, are small connections that latch onto our hearts. Soul ties are commonly referred to when two people participate in a sexual relationship but they can be created in the absence of sex.  These “heart” connections can be good or bad.  For example, when a couple marry- they are creating a soul tie.  A commitment to love one another for all of eternity, their two hearts become one (tying of their souls).   That is an example of a good soul tie, but what about all of the bad soul ties we tolerate.  We tolerate the soul tie of our past (bad), the soul tie of unhealthy addictions (bad- esp. alcoholism, pornography, substance abuse), the soul tie of negative spoken words (bad – things that our parents or peers have spoken over our lives {ex. “You’ll never be nothing!” }),  the soul tie of negative thoughts (suicidal thought and ideas), and finally our emotional soul ties that fuel our cycles of depression and loneliness.  We allow these soul ties to take root in our lives via our hearts and we become accustomed to them.  We start believing what these soul ties have dictated to us and we act out their demands.  I hear individuals my age say all the time, “The reason I didn’t try this semester is because everybody knows I’m dumb, I was born to be the dumb kid in the back.” Or I hear this one “No one loves me, I know no one loves me – it’s just how the world works.” I have even heard this one, “You know I’m not gonna be nothing, look at my daddy – he’s nothing and I’m just like him.” Wow. All of these statements have become these individuals truth because of a soul tie within them.  Some they loved dearly have spoken these words onto their hearts and have created this connection of destruction and low self-esteem with life.  

So where is the hope in all of this?  Soul ties can be destroyed but only through the power of God.  His word destroys soul ties and their power.  Hebrews 4:12 (NIV) says “  For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” The word of God cuts soul ties from the heart.  God’s word lets us know that we are loved, free and redeemed through His Son.  His word is powerful enough to destroy the soul ties in our lives.  When we believe His word, our soul ties are destroyed and we can move forward in our lives.  

We do not have to succumb addictions, or to the lifestyle of our past.  We do not have to succumb to negative thoughts or to negative spoken words.  We do not have to succumb to anything that keeps us in bondage or limits us from living freely in the grace of God.  

We can be free from soul ties because of Jesus. He can make us free from soul ties, being that He is the word.  Live today in the freedom of God.  

If you haven’t already, I encourage you to check out Kierra Sheard’s song “Free”– it’ll encourage you to live life free! 

Like Authentic Love’s page on Facebook and Have a great day!

Until next time, 

Mo 🙂 

A Ray of Sunshine

Hello old friends, new followers, and fellow bloggers-

Today has been a great day filled with crazy adventures at the wig store (What? yep.lol.), conversations  filled with laughter, and an amazing peace that has enveloped me since 3am prayer.  It was in today that I saw God move so quickly in my life, filling my day with a huge ray of sunshine!  So I guess, today/tonight we are going to talk about the power of maintaining a positive attitude- in rays of sunshine.  

You know friends, we don’t understand how amazing the sun is until we live through days filled with rain.  I live in probably the rainiest city in the South, Greenville-South Carolina (yes the home of Delvin Choice from The Voice lol.) In Greenville, it rains (monsoons) for at least four days a week and then the rest of the week is filled with  beautiful rays of sunshine.  When it’s raining, I begin to complain and wish that I could see the sky be filled with beautiful colors of yellow and orange.  As soon as the sky clears and those magnificent colors break through the clouds, it is as if Greenville was never “flooded” with rain a few hours before; it is as if all things were made new.  I think the sad part comes when I experience the beauty of sunshine but don’t appreciate it, this thing I hoped for so long, is the very thing I complain about.

The problem that arises with us in our lives is that sometimes life is so hard and filled with negative thoughts and actions for so long.  We hope and pray that life will get better that our lives will be filled with positive thoughts and actions; with rays of sunshine.  As soon as life becomes great, we complain about the good that is occurring within us and miss the opportunity to rest in our positive environment.  God sends us “rays of sunshine” everyday but sometimes we miss seeing the good in these people, opportunities or circumstances because we are too busy complaining.  I’m reminded of the children of Israel that were delivered out of Egypt – God brought them into the wilderness to show them Himself and to teach them character.  They were free (ray of sunshine ), being that they were bound for over 400 years (rainy days) – yet they did not rest in their freedom but instead complained.  This made their 3 day journey to the promise land a total of 40 years.  

We have to maintain a positive attitude and remember that each time God shines a little sunshine in our lives, it is an opportunity for us to show our gratitude and to bring positivity to others. Be a ray of sunshine! Don’t allow  your complaints to  turn your life into a continual rainy day.  Recognize the good that you are experiencing and rest in God’s goodness towards you. Just rest in His eternal light!

Until next time,

Mo 🙂