I Have A Problem With Disrespect…

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As you all know, the SCOTUS legalized marriage equality- making Friday a win-win day for the LGBT community.  As Christian I believe that God loves everyone, but He does not care for the sins we operate in, homosexuality alike.  I take the stance that sin is sin, there are no big sins or small sins or more justifiable sins…all sin is the same.  So does this mean that I dislike those who identify as gay or lesbian, no- most definitely not!  I don’t treat anyone that identifies in that community different/worse than any of my other neighbors (humanity).  I take this stance on the position that when Christ took on the sins of the world, the Father turned His head and could not allow his eyes to dwell upon His sin any longer- not because Christ was a bad  person but because sin was upon Him, and God can’t tolerate or be in the presence of what is deemed sin.  So…if He turned His head and did not even look at His only begotten Son, whom He loved dearly- what makes me think, He is going to wink at my sin.

Anyways…I’m not up here to argue with anyone or convert anyone to my beliefs.  I have many in my life that identify with the LGBT community that I love very much.  We don’t agree in regards to our lifestyles but we can peacefully engage in conversation, enjoy wonderful meals together and love each other regardless….

I don’t have a problem with those that are in that community, my problem comes from those that antagonize me, put me down, and harass me via social media because I have a different opinion. I don’t go around telling people that they need to convert to Christianity- I believe that coming to God is a choice and I respect the idea of people having the ability to choose their lifestyle.

A small minority of the LGBT community has come across as super aggressive and have rallied this idea that if you don’t care for the way I live than you are filled with hatred and bigotry, which is not the case.  I know a lot of people that don’t care for my lifestyle of faith- it doesn’t mean they hate me, it means that they disagree with how I see the world.  Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

Why can’t I have an opinion?  Since so many opinions are made about me?  This girl told me that she “was gonna make me gay.” I don’t want to be gay. My heterosexual orientation is my preference, I think girls are awesome but I don’t want to be with one.  What gives her the right to aggressively try to make me into something I don’t want to be?  I never told her I  was going to make her love Jesus… So what gives her the idea that she can make me gay?  Or why am I seeing pictures of Crucifixes with men kissing Christ on the cross??? Why is it okay to cross the line and make something that I hold with deep religious revere sacrilegious???? Why??? What have I ever done to the community?  Why is it okay for someone to call me a homophobe?  I’m not scared of homosexuals.  I love those in the LGBT community, the same way I love those who are apart of the “Straight” club.  I get these messages of “You Christians are so judgmental.” “You Christians are so hypocritical.”  “You Christians are this…” “You Christians are that …”But who says any of that applies to me?  Yes, I am a Christian but the same way I can’t judge someone because of their sexual orientation, I shouldn’t be judged because of my standard of faith.

I don’t have a problem with the LGBT community, I have a problem with disrespect.

Until next time,

Mo 🙂

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Like Abraham….

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These past two weeks have been so emotional, just because of the internal obstacles I have had to face.  Once again, I faced feelings of inadequacy, the opinions of others and the challenge of family and their expectations in my life.  I made up my mind a long time ago that I was going to live my life, whether people approved or not.  I was going to make my own decisions.  These people include my parents.  I have found that other the years, my parents- especially my mom, has this particular vision for my life.  I share some aspects of her vision but I’m not her so some aspects of her vision I do not share and have no intention of following.  My mom’s opinion matters a lot to me and her opinions have caused me to second guess the direction God has been leading me towards in life.  I realized that I rather listen to God and live my life according to His will than to live my life trying to please my mother.  I love my mom, I do – it’s just that I have to live my own life the way God wants me to live it.  I can’t stand before God and say I didn’t do what You told me to because my mom didn’t approve.  There comes a time in our lives where we have to make our own decisions apart from family and friends.  In these times, we will not be popular and they may not believe that our decisions are right but that is all apart of growing up- making your own God ordained decisions.  

I am realizing everyday that God is preparing me like Abraham, he is preparing me to go away from my family and everything that I’ve known before so that I can go a place that He is going to show me.  If we never leave those who have so much influence over us, we will find ourselves never walking out God’s will in our lives.  Doing your own thing is not a matter of disrespect, it’s a matter of growing up and we as a spirit-led people are going to have to explain to our family (esp. parents) that God’s plan is perfect.  Just because they don’t understand the plan, doesn’t mean it’s not God.  They have to trust God’s plan in your life.  I am coming to the place that if God says sleep at the hospital and my mom doesn’t approve, I’m still going to sleep at the hospital because God said so and not because my mom approved.  I don’t need her approval concerning my life.  Her approval would be great, but if she doesn’t approve of  my decisions- I will still love her and move on with what’s ahead.

We have to stop allowing others to have so much control over who we become.  If we’re not careful , people will live their lives vicariously through us and that is not the will of God.  The will of God is for us to be obedient to Him and His word, not to the opinions of others.  Yes, there is accountability.  Yes, God loves submission to leadership.  But, if your leadership is hindering you from fulfilling what God has said, He will either remove your leadership or grasp your attention so that you can heed His voice.  I rather make some people mad, even my mom – then be disobedient to God.  I can’t afford to walk in disobedience and make the wrong choice because of what other’s think would be best for me.  You have to live your own life with God and let others do the same.  I’m not advocating rebellion, I’m advocating taking a stand concerning your life and not living it passively taking the direction of others.  

Some of you guys are going to have to be like Abraham and leave what you know (who you know) behind so that you can move forward into the place God has destined for you.  

Until next time,

Mo 🙂

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I’m Proud of You

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The best words we can hear from anyone in our lives are “I’m so proud of you!”.  These words fill us up and makes us feel good on the inside.  My dad has a tendency to say these words to me randomly, in the spur of the moment.  I used to brush these moments aside as if they were nothing but as I got older I came to realize the significance of these tender moments with him.  My dad is very affectionate and loving but he doesn’t say a whole lot.  He is a man of few words- so when he sits you down and tells you how much he loves and appreciates you, this is a big deal!  He always looks me in the eyes and say “Baby girl, I’m proud of you!  I’m proud of the young woman you have become.”  These words bring such joy to my heart and they encourage me to continue living life the way that I do.  So today, I decided that I would like to share that same joy with you.   So, I repeat to you the same words spoken by my father to me- “I’m proud of you!  I’m proud of the woman/man that you have become.” I hope that your heart is warmed with the knowledge that someone believes in you and thinks highly of the life that you choose to live.  I love you guys and hope you guys have a great rest of your day!!!

Until next time,

Mo 🙂

P.S.  Even if no one else believes in you, I believe.  Even if your dad has nothing positive to say to you, I speak positive things into your life.  Even if your family doesn’t think highly of you, I think highly of you- so does God and His opinion trumps the opinions of others.  Be encouraged and hang in there!  

Free From Other’s Opinions

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Today is Independence Day!!! Yay 🙂 Today is the day that America celebrates being free from Great Britain, and becoming its own nation.  I love the concept of freedom.  In fact my faith in Jesus, celebrates freedom.  John 8:36  says “If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.” (KJV) I love this verse and I believe that people can be free from anything; addictions, old habits, old mindsets, and finally the opinions of others.  Some of us aren’t bound to substances or bad patterns such as mutilation and etc, but rather we are bound by the opinions of others concerning our lives. So, today we are going to talk about the importance of being free from the opinions of others.

Have you ever changed your mind concerning something based on an opinion? Not a fact, an opinion?  An opinion is defined as a “belief, judgment, or way of thinking about something : what someone thinks about a particular thing”, this is not necessarily based on any facts. How many times have we changed our clothes, hairstyles, and pop culture choices because someone did not like what we were into? How many times have we changed our short-term goals because someone thought what we aspired to do was too “risky” or because it “didn’t make sense”?  I believe that this holiday can be the fuel to the fire of us as individuals, coming to the place where we make decisions for our lives that are not based upon what other people think, feel, or believe.

Now, I’m not trying to knock down other people’s beliefs but I believe that what may be the solution for one person my not work for another person.  This is why I believe God allowed men to write 66 books of the Bible, there is a book/ verse for everyone.  The scripture that captures my heart and brings me hope, may not be the scripture that does the same for you- but both verses accomplish the goal of building hope.  We all live different lives, so instead of being bound to one’s opinion of how my life should play out and who I should be- why don’t I just live my life to please God and let Him worry about the rest.  Some of us have not accomplished our divine assignments and dreams because  of the opinions of others.  We have missed opportunities because we cared too much about what others thought.  One thing my mom taught me is that each and everyone of us is going to have to give an account for how we lived our lives.  We can’t go before God and said, I didn’t change the world because “Sally” didn’t like my approach to world-changing. We can’t say – I didn’t show others how to love because “Bill” hated the way I approached everyone with a hug.

Who cares what they think?         Really…who cares?  

Let us stop giving so much power to people!  Let us live our lives pleasing God and allow Him to love through us.  At the end of the day, the people we allow to run our lives do not matter- it’s all about Him and how He is exalted in our lives.  Let us be free from the opinions of others!  

Until next time,

Mo 🙂

Feel Free

Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers- ,

Feel free to comment on posts, share ideas and engage with me on Authentic Love: God, Relationships and Life.  I love hearing you guys feedback and I appreciate hearing of you guys’ life experiences and lessons learned.  If you would like for me to write about a specific topic or have any questions you would like for me to answer, feel free to email me  at authenticlove789@gmail.com .   Follow me on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.   I love hearing from you guys and learning from you all as well.  Thanks for the support and the prayers.

Until next time,

Mo 🙂