A Love That Lies.

“I used to justify toxic behavior and say, “Well, I know they love me.”  That was not the truth.  These people did not love me, they loved the access they had to me.  They loved that they could do whatever they wanted and I did not have the guts yet to check them on their bad behavior.  Loves, those days of receiving any kind of love/treatment is over. “©Simone Holloway, 2020.

It’s Going To Be Different This Time.

“We look at our new friendships through the pain of our old ones.  We measure our new love against the toxic romantic partners of the past.  We look at a similar opportunity and automatically determine its success or failure relative to what we have attempted before.  Lastly, some of us even dream, plan and/or strategize within the limitations of our last failure.  When the Father makes all this new, things change and it’s okay to believe that what you’re seeing is different this time.”©Simone Holloway, 2020.

Use Your Words.

“One of my absolute favorite words is “no”.  No, I am not available.  No, I would not like to go with you there.  No, I am not happy with the treatment given to me.  No, I am not satisfied with the level of communication demonstrated.  No.   No is such a powerful word, it’s a boundary inducing word and it allows us to control our environment.  A lot of us have or are currently submitting to abusive behavior because we were or are afraid to say “no.” ©️Simone Holloway, 2020.

The Need for Community

“God never intended for you to do life alone. You were created to have a tribe, a group of people who will love you for you.” ©️Simone Holloway, 2019

the switch up.

“I was no longer living for church politics or for people who did not create me to accept me, I was accepted already. I attended dances, went to mixers, traveled all over the country for conferences, and went on day trips- I was having the time of my life! I became free.”©Simone Holloway, 2019

Seasons Change

“As a born-bred city girl, I did not know how to rest. I am a bonafide go-getter who is always looking to what’s next:  the next project, the next adventure, the next creative idea.”©Simone Holloway, 2019

Masks & Monsters

It’s hard, to tell the truth when you’ve committed to your fantasy.  It’s easier to ignore red flags when you’re dedicated to the lie.©Simone Holloway, 2019

Back in the DM

We can tell a person and say “I forgive you” as many times as we want to but it doesn’t mean a thing until we actually can say that person’s name, go around that person, receive a message from that person and not feel a way. About four weeks ago I went through a whole…

No Shame

Y’all, I have no idea what this life of no shame will bring but I’m excited.  I feel free, like in the depths of my soul.  I feel like I can conquer the world.  I feel strong and full of life in the inner chambers of my heart.  I feel brave.  It takes bravery to move into the unknown out of fear into love, out of being guarded to being open, out of holding things into being extremely honest.  I am okay with where I am and that is freedom all in itself.  I’ve embraced the truth about me and I am unashamed.  I’ve embraced my triumphs and my failures, every ounce of my brokenness and the places where I am whole, all of my strengths and all of my weaknesses.  I’m okay with every ounce of me and I am enough because I am in Him.  I’m literally smiling as I type this article, overjoyed at the process He is doing in my heart.  ©Simone Holloway, 2019