Hello old friends, new followers, and fellow bloggers- What’s up family? Happy Friday! Ladies and Gents, I’ve been in this really dope space where I’ve returned to the dating market. Let’s just say that dating in 2019 is interesting, to say the least. What I’ve learned in my short time back on the market is…
Category: Relationship
In Year Three, I Should Have Left.
“Why do we stay in awful situations? This is the question that I woke up pondering. Why do we stay with emotionally, mentally and physically abusive people? Why do we submit ourselves to toxic unhealthy church environments? Why do we settle into office cultures that break our spirits? Why do we hold onto friends that don’t have our best interest at heart? Why do we stay even when God gives us a way out, time and time again? Why?!?!?!” ©Simone Holloway, 2019
Back in the DM
We can tell a person and say “I forgive you” as many times as we want to but it doesn’t mean a thing until we actually can say that person’s name, go around that person, receive a message from that person and not feel a way. About four weeks ago I went through a whole…
That’s Not My Job.
“I looked her in the eye and said, “It’s not my job to parent someone’s dysfunction.” Whoo! That’s something, right there! Say it with me: IT IS NOT MY JOB TO BE THE CARETAKER OF SOMEONE ELSE’S DYSFUNCTION!!!!! ” ©Simone Holloway, 2019
RIP Forever.
” I said hello, and asked what he wanted. He responded with a classic lie: “I missed you.” I would miss me too, I mean your girl is out here living her best life looking like a whole meal. I said “Ok.” Like what am I supposed to do about that? That seems like a personal problem to me. He kept going, “I just wanted to talk to you. I made a huge mistake. You’re the one for me. I need you in my life. I want to marry you.” My jaw dropped because for years I wanted to marry this man. Can you imagine thinking that 3 years in is the time, then year five comes and no proposal, and finally, your relationship is over by year seven. Instantly my past started contending with my future. “©Simone Holloway, 2019
The Letter
“But How?” my hearts screams out. “How can we return to a place I never got to. I almost got there, I thought I was there but I failed… I never got there.” In love, He grabs my hand and whispers, “Your only failure would have been to marry someone who was never designed to love you. To procreate with someone who did not have the capacity to be a father and to enter into a business partnership with someone with no integrity. Babygirl, you did not fail. You succeeded! For you chose your future over your present and you chose what was hard over what was easy. You said Yes even though the cost was your heart. You, my dear, can return to this place…” ©Simone Holloway, 2019
Phone Calls
“I realized that I shied away from connection because it allowed people to see me. And I mean see me: in rawness, brokenness and undone. Yet, it is this baring of oneself that builds intimacy and connection. If you cannot see me fully, then you cannot know me and you cannot love me.”©Simone Holloway, 2019
Open.
“So, here I am completely open and vulnerable and just plain scared but willing. I am willing to be open, I am willing to be loved. “©Simone Holloway, 2019
Misplaced Expectations.
“If we’re honest, our anger is with ourselves. We’re disappointed that we placed faith and trust in someone that we thought could do no wrong, but they did. Problem is: we’re all human, liable to make mistakes.” (c) Simone Holloway, 2018
Holiday Anxiety
” I don’t know about you all, but I feel like we live in a world where we are always asked to supply answers to questions that we simply don’t have the answer to. For example, “How long will you be single?”; “When are you going to have some kids?”; “Girl, why you ain’t got a boyfriend?; “Girl, when are you getting married?” In my heart I want to scream, “I DON’T KNOW, DO I LOOK LIKE GOD?” but on the outside, I smile gracefully and say, “I don’t know. I’ll let you know when I find out.” I’m not going to let them know… I’m going to make all my announcements after the fact on social media. My family will find out about my life choices when the world finds out. Trifling? Yeah, I know. “
Authentic Love: God, Relationships, and Life 