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*disclaimer: today’s post is about a touchy subject. Read, enjoy, ponder and engage with these thoughts. *
“What If We Were Honest?” this was the title of a great record by Francesca Battistelli, and these words are one that rings in my heart today. Honesty. It sounds nice and all, but I believe that we as a society have found comfort in dishonesty, in the rat race of pretend. I mean who wants to be honest? Really honest? Gut-wrenching honest? No one. No one wants to admit their failures or to relish in their inadequacies. No, we as a people rather “fake it till we make it”. We rather front, making ourselves bigger than what we are: seeking validation for our charade. But what if, for a moment, we were truly honest? Honest with ourselves, honest with each other and honest with God.
I believe that honesty is the doorway of freedom. We will never be free or experience inner healing until we are honest. There is no greater shackle than the chain of a secret. For centuries, especially in the African American community, we held each other hostage to secrets. Secrets of rape and molestation, secrets of incest, secrets of mental illness, secrets of criminal activity, secrets of children born out of wedlock, secret families and secret affairs. We’ve caged ourselves in by our secrets, silently triggered by things no one else but our oppressors knows. Some of our oppressors have gone to the grave, yet we are still carrying the shame as if they are alive- bound by a secret. To omit part of the truth is to not tell the truth at all. God is aware of all of these things, memories and secrets we carry in our hearts. We don’t have to pretend to have it all together, we don’t have to pretend to have all the answers, we don’t have to pretend to be whole but we can share these concerns with our Father so that he can heal us.
The more I confess, the more I share, the more transparent I live – the freer I am!
What would our world look like if we were honest?