Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers-
You know? For a relationship blog, we don’t speak a lot relationships. So I thought that tonight’s post would be about dating relationships, courtship and etc. Do you know what was my biggest mistake in the majority of relationships I entertained? My biggest mistake was allowing everything to just be- I never created boundaries. That is how I ended up accepting crappy behavior from the guys I considered or was engaged into a relationship with. I thought my mom was being old-fashioned with her variety of rules: Don’t pick up the phone after 10, require a dinner date, have him pick you up from your home, etc. “Psshh…she’s crazy”, I would say. “There’s no way someone is going to want to date me with those stupid rules.” I would scoff as I broke the rules for a guy. But as I become a young adult woman, I’ve come to appreciate these little rules that establishes a standard. After working an eight sometimes nine hour workday, I don’t want to be on the phone after 10:30. I’m too tired to hold an actual conversation and therefore I’m not alert concerning what is being told to me. What good am I in conversation, if I am not listening? Create boundaries. There is this stigma that having standards are going to result in loneliness. Au contraire my dear, having standards will weed out all the good for nothings and land you a good for something. What is the point of dating someone who cares nothing about your worth as an individual? Who has that type of time to waste?
We have lied to ourselves. We have convinced ourselves that we have to lower ourselves to be accepted. The mere fact that we think devaluing ourselves equal acceptance reflect the overall low self-esteem that is echoed in our society. Creating boundaries is good for our body as well as our soul- there needs to be a clear line that few get the privilege of crossing. When we create these boundaries and love without partiality- we will find people’s treatment of us changing. My beautiful young queens, stop throwing your crown of gold to the ground in order to accept a crown of twine. Come on my beautiful queens realize your place in the kingdom of God and accept only that which belong in your rank. Why settle when you don’t have to? Why accept so-so when you can have excellent? Why sacrifice your worth for attention, warmth and closeness? Create boundaries and watch God send you someone who will not only respect you, but cherish you and love you so well that you have no choice but to forget about those who loved you poorly.
Anyways family, I’m so tired and I’m ready to call it a night. I wish all of you the absolute best and I hope that you all do what is best for not only your body but your soul.
Until next time,