Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers-
I wonder how the world would look like if we loved people for who they truly were and not for who we wanted them to be. Just think, what would our relationships look like if we chose to accept our significant other in their entirety? Would we be happy? Would our relationships last? I think the number one problem in relationships is the lack of acceptance towards one’s partner.
Many enter into relationships viewing their partner as their latest rescue project, an avenue of change, and not as a human being deserving of unconditional love. I used to be so guilty of this, entering into relationships with this mission of changing the person I was with to fit my needs/desires. This mindset misses the mark of why we enter into relationships in the first place. We choose to journey with someone so that we can learn from them and vice versa. We enter into relationships so that we can love someone in their entirety and in return we receive the same or a greater level of love. There is nothing worse than being in relationship with someone and not feeling like you are enough- like you can’t be your true self with that person.
For years, I spent so much time hiding myself from those I loved. I was so afraid that I would not be accepted as I am, and in turn I picked up all these “rescue projects” along the way infused with a spirit of judgement.
There is this amazing verse that speaks of giving mercy, for the same measure of mercy given is the same measure of mercy that we’ll receive. I think that we should do the same in our love, we should love people for who they are. We should embrace them for who they are and not strive to change people into who we desire for them to be. When we go into our relationships seeking to change that individual, we are telling them that they are not enough for us just the way they are. Our words or actions communicate that these individuals we swear to love are not: good enough, kind enough, smart enough, beautiful enough, and etc. After awhile our significant others are knocked out of their throne of awesomeness, their empire of confidence and begin to question what makes them special and unique. This is not the message God wants us to share with the world. He made each of us different with different talents, gifts, features and etc. He created us to accept our difference, to wear our awesomeness with pride- to Him, we’re enough!
So… I don’t know who mishandled your heart or who made you feel like you would never be enough, but I just wanted to let you know that YOU ARE ENOUGH FOR GOD. He loves you for you. His love is not contingent upon your job, GPA, swag or even your family connections. He loves you for you. If God who has a higher standard than us, love you for you- why can’t your significant other do the same? I spent way too much time compromising myself so that others would like me, so that this guy who is only occupying a small margin of my existence would give me the time of day- but as I grow older: If I cannot be myself then I do not need to enter into relationship with that person. I rather be true to myself than compromise who I am. I’ve realized that I am enough and that those who love me must love me for me. Point blank period!
Well family, I hope this encourages you. Always be reminded that you are enough and you do not have to abdicate your throne for anyone. Sit on your throne and rule like the QUEEN/KING you are. Much love!
Until next time,