Hello old friends, new followers and fellow bloggers-
Happy Friday! I don’t have class today and I smile on the inside knowing that there is a God and He loves me dearly. This week has been such a busy week and I cannot wait to get a free moment to sleep!
DISCLAIMER: I’m talking to the Ladies today! Guys, you all are awesome but I’m speaking to my sisters, aunts, nieces, friends, and mentees about something missing from our world.
Anyways…. I wanted to talk about something that is near and dear to my heart. I am a big proponent of equality and ridding isms in our world, but I am also super concerned with this push to be a bad “B” rather than to be a lady filled with grace, class and poise. We as women are powerful! We are extremely powerful when we are filled with class, poise,grace, gentleness and strength. I think because of the injustices, we have been taught that we have to assert our authority and become aggressive to be recognized which could be nothing further from the truth. I love to see young women who carry themselves with class, not arrogance but a steady confidence in who they are and their ability.
My mom taught me to carry myself as a lady, she used to always tell me that when I entered into a room- my positive attitude and confident presence would speak for itself. I did not have to show off my body for attention, I did not have to be the loudest person in the room, I did not have to esteem my own accomplishments and brag about my abilities. If I did a great job, those I impacted would speak my praises for themselves. I used to think that she was just being super old fashioned and I spent time doing the complete opposite. I came across as one who lacked self-worth, one who was super insecure and one who did not know the finesse of being the woman God created me to be. This guy I was talking to said he wanted a girl that was just like a guy but with a different sex organ…ummm… I could never be that for him: because even though I was cool in conversation and extremely easy-going I was not a guy and I had no desire to become one. There is something so amazing about living a life of class, respect and honor as a young woman. This is not something that should be shunned or looked at as of days of old but something that should be adopted and revisited as a society.
Based upon experience, I’ve enjoyed my interactions with the guys around me by being who I am: a classy, gracious young woman. It’s like my behavior, pulls out the gentlemen that are inside of them. I experience more chivalry, more intimate conversations about life, and a supreme level of trust that came from an air of gentleness and security. Our strength does not come from our aggression but rather from our gentleness. I think God designed women the way he did to pull out the best in the men/world around them. He made us powerful vehicles of life and he created within us this art of cultivation and beautification. We make the world beautiful and we make the lives of our significant others beautiful with our words, mannerism and infectious attitudes. It’s time that we uplift and build the rights of women around the world- by teaching each other that we are worth more than what we have been labeled. We are not the property of men or society but we belong to a God who created us in grace to exude grace.
Former First Lady Michelle Obama is goals where it concerns grace, class and poise!
Until next time,